My unexpected journey as a trailing spouse began in 2004 when, after much soul-searching, I decided to leave my beloved job at Emory University’s Goizueta Business School in order to follow my other beloved to another university, in another state, for his graduate studies.
I agonized over this decision.
“I’ll take HAPPY ‘TRAIL’s for $1,000, Alex.”
[Alex Trebek’s dulcet tones read out the clue that appears on a glowing blue screen.] “Answer: This term describes someone who moves for a romantic partner’s career.”
[Me, buzzing in confidently and turning the game into a runaway in my favor.] “What is a Trailing Spouse?”
As you begin your journey as a trailing spouse, it’s useful to consider where you fall on the Gupte Scale: Destination + Timing + Resources.
Some people despise the term “trailing spouse.” But I think it’s perfect.