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  • About Us
    • Our Philosophy
    • Contributors
    • Contact Us
  • Topics
    • Bucket Listing
    • Career Transitions
    • Driving Distance
    • Expat Experiences
    • Military Moves
    • Trailing Kids
  • Resources
    • Book Club
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Playing the Cards You’re Dealt

My full name is Hilda Denize Pinto Samo Gudo Johannsen. Yes, you might want to think twice before asking me to spell it all out! I’m Brazilian, my husband is German, and we have lived in Mozambique, Moldova, Indonesia, and now India. 

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Empty Nest at Home, Full Lives Ahead

For anyone who has spent decades as an expat trailing spouse, seeing your children leave the nest and your husband become a stay-at-home retiree is a major change of life, dynamics and pace.

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Bending, Not Breaking, in Malaysia

My new novel tells the story of the interweaving lives of a British expat woman and her Filipina maid in Malaysia. It’s ultimately a tale of love, belonging and discovery — loosely based on my own experiences as a trailing spouse.

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From Flailing Spouse to Badass Abroad

In 2008, I had an ideal life. I was working part-time for a chemical company as a supply chain implementation lead, and I was a part-time stay at home mom in the suburbs of Richmond, Virginia. It felt like I…

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Cross-Country Culture Shocks and Confidence Gains

For my ninth move as a Navy wife, I traded in Seattle’s jeans-and-tattoos vibe for the power suits, prestige, and politics of Washington, D.C.

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Yesterday’s Gone; Tomorrow Will Be Here

Since Fleetwood Mac’s Christine McVie died in November, I’ve been listening to “As Long As You Follow” on repeat, remembering how I once joked that it was the perfect song for the career expat.

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My Long and Winding Road

My unpredictable life’s journey, complete with stumbles and rocky patches, has held me in good stead as an expat spouse.

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Stranger in Many Strange Lands

My journey as a trailing spouse began with my wife’s job offer with the U.N. High Commissioner for Refugees in Ukraine. Six years later, we were fleeing for our lives.

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From One Trailing Spouse to Another: Hang In There, Meghan (and Harry)

Isn’t it amazing how we can see the same thing and come to such wildly different conclusions?

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Unexpected Yet Inevitable: My Colorful Life in India

From Paris to London to Delhi, “Mademoiselle Prune” offers a fashion-forward spin on trailing spouse life.

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    What’s Your Resolution?

    by Jess Kuemmerlin January 18, 2022
    by Jess Kuemmerlin

    As a math teacher who became a health consultant (and trailing husband), my advice every year is to focus on the things we can control — and giving our bodies what they need.

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    Saying Yes to a Hard No

    by Amanda Burton December 19, 2021
    by Amanda Burton

    I was living my best life in Chicago when my partner’s career path went south. Would I stay put in my best life, but lose one of the best parts of it?

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    Getting Off the Academia Roller Coaster

    by Rachel Karas December 6, 2021
    by Rachel Karas

    As I worked on my Ph.D., my partner prepared for life as a trailing spouse. But then, I decided to get off the academia roller coaster.

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    Embassy Wife: Behind the Book

    by Katie Crouch October 24, 2021
    by Katie Crouch

    I’ve always been an adventurous traveler, so I had this big idea of arriving with a newborn strapped to my chest and driving a Land Rover to see the elephants. Needless to say, things did not happen this way. 

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    How Not to Be the Jerk Back Home

    by Crista Lindberg September 5, 2021
    by Crista Lindberg

    When you finally get “back home” for a visit or repatriation? Make sure to avoid coming across like an arrogant ass.

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    My Awful Good Fortune

    by Marcie Maxfield August 11, 2021
    by Marcie Maxfield

    Marcie Maxfield, author of Em’s Awful Good Fortune, reflects on the highs and lows of her rock-and-roll trailing spouse lifestyle.

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    Summer Reading for Happy Trails

    by Nicole Neroulias Gupte June 28, 2021
    by Nicole Neroulias Gupte

    Ready to kick back and read a book or two? Here’s our summer reading recommendations for or about trailing spouses.

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    Confessions of a Chronic Expat

    by Kristin Duncombe June 21, 2021
    by Kristin Duncombe

    First, I followed my father around the world. Then, my husband. Now, I find it really exciting to ask only myself: Where next?

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    Detour or Scenic Route… Why Not Both?

    by Simone Holderbach June 13, 2021
    by Simone Holderbach

    Our Canadian adventure was supposed to be limited to two years, so I viewed our relocation more like a sabbatical for myself and informed my parents that we would be back “before you know it.” Oops.

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    Love and Loss, From a Distance

    by Nicole Neroulias Gupte May 1, 2021
    by Nicole Neroulias Gupte

    When we leave loved ones behind with each relocation, how can we cope when the losses become permanent?

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Fourth-generation trailing spouse whose partner's career has prompted three cross-country moves and one across-the-world move... so far!

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